New Year’s Eve

This is a personal piece. Please be aware that content may be triggering.

For me, New Year’s Eve is the most difficult day of the year. Last New Year’s Eve I attempted to take my own life. This year I’ve found myself planning to do the same (I have discussed this with my care coordinator and have a plan to keep me safe in place). I hate this day so much.

New Year’s Eve, apart from being a day of celebration for many, is a bad anniversary for me. This makes it harder for me to join in with the partying and celebrating. In fact I don’t understand why people see it as a reason to celebrate.

For me New Year makes me look back on the previous year and sometimes years before. This I find distressing as I relive all the bad things in my life. For example this last year I have attempted to end my life five times. This makes me feel despairing and wondering if the following year will be the same or worse. I find it hard to be optimistic about the future.

Another reason this New Year is difficult is that 2019 will see me turn 30. For me this feels really difficult to comprehend. I find myself worrying about what I will do to mark the occasion and whether anyone will be around to help me mark this milestone. I also feel pressure to celebrate my birthday when to me it shows my failure to end my life. Its very confusing. I know the things I said are a paradox.

I also have things to look forward to in 2019 but it’s hard to see this right now. The whole new year, new me idea is something I hate. Change to me is scary. It feels overwhelming and with the pressure of the new year, new me brigade it makes me want to hide away. I don’t feel good enough. I find myself comparing myself to others.

So what’s my advice for New Year’s Eve and New Year in general?

  • If you don’t want to celebrate New Year’s Eve then don’t. I will be sitting with the dog reading my book in my pyjamas.
  • Don’t feel pressure to change anything. If you feel it’s too much right now then it’s OK to do things at your own pace any time of the year.
  • Distract. If you find yourself dwelling on the past, try to do something to distract yourself.
  • Try to avoid alcohol. Alcohol is a depressant so can make things feel worse.
  • Talk. Reach out to others. They can help you. You’ll be surprised how many others dislike New Year’s Eve.

So all that is left for me to do is wish you a peaceful New Year. Take care of yourself. You are important and you matter.

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7 thoughts on “New Year’s Eve

  1. Sour Girl

    I dreaded turning 30 too, for 5 years prior. After that, it didn’t seem to matter anymore. It’s just a number. I hate NYE too….it’s up there with Christmas Day and Valetine’s Day for being a loneliness / feeling excluded trigger.

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  2. christine

    hey,
    im sry2hear things r difficult…wait that sounds dumb… hard… even dumber. im just sry. i wish i could take all ur pain away. i know that sounds straight forward and a tad creepy cuz idk u. but i would like to think u would wanna b awake not wanna miss miss out on the miracles of this world. and im sry if uve seen very few and far in between. i wish u all the best.. i really do πŸ™‚ cuz theyre there… sometimes they come to u when u least expect them to… tc and plz keep safe in ur safe space

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  3. ecbcmanchester

    I’m sorry to hear about your recent struggle, I too find NYE difficult and also sit with my dog and read a book. Thank you for the tips and for using your experience to help others. x

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